Sunday, May 31, 2009
Saturday, May 30, 2009
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Friday, May 29, 2009
Heart contents by Maria at 10:51 PM
Ellie hanging out with "Aunt Maggie", who brought her a bag of Honey Nut Cheerio mix to eat during the game. Ellie loved it!!
Ellie eating some icing off a cupcake. One of the boys had a birthday yesterday and brought cupcakes. Ellie was pretty darned fond of that icing!!
Happy birthday, wee one!!
Heart contents by Maria at 10:43 PM
While most parents are very quick to point out their children's successes, it's hard to challenging to share when your children are not as successful in obtaining their dreams. However, when Josh looks back in life I want him to understand that just because he didn't get what he wanted all the time, it wasn't a life altering event. I want him to see the disappointments in perspective to all the good that is in his life. But, on the other hand, I want him to realize that in life there will be disappointments -- sometimes many, and most bigger than this one.
So, Josh went to try out for the middle school golf team. We sort of thought that if you tried out, you made it. At least that's the way it was last year. This year, however, there were 14 kids who were trying out so it was based on skill levels and not just "showing up". There were 5 girls who showed up too, and we think the school is starting a girl's team. That's good news for the girls! But, after spendingi 2.5 hours there, we found out this morning that Josh didn't make the team. She only added two incoming sixth graders to the team.
Josh took it well and didn't seem very upset (on the outside). We did tell him we would check into the free lessons for kids at our local golf course. He seemed excited about this.
It really hurt to find out he didn't make it and to have to tell him. Being a parent in these situations really stinks. You want your children to be successful and happy, and it's just hard at those times when you realize that they aren't always going to be.
Ah... parenting, hard work!
Heart contents by Maria at 10:16 PM
I've discovered I have follicularly challenged hair. It does not matter what the box says my hair color will be, my hair doesn't understand. I even had a conversation with it this time, telling it that it was not to turn out too dark. Instead of medium brown, or warm brown or any of those "medium" colors, I decided to try to "fool" my follicles by getting a "light" shade. There was a lovely color chart on the side of the box that said, based on my hair color, I would get this lovely honey, golden brown color. It was a beautiful shade, honestly. I showed the box to my hair, reminded them of their job and then covered them up with color. I was supposed to wait 25 minutes. At 10 minutes I realized the color that had dropped on my shirt was turning an alarming shade of dark, dark brown. Understanding the limitations of my hair to perform its job correctly and understand directions, I decided to rinse right away. Ten minutes -- not twenty five, mind you. Did I get a lovely honey, fawn colored, light brown? OF COURSE NOT!!! I have some kind of auburn dark brown. Oh well, it was a much better improvement over the black I got when I used "medium" brown. I'm fine with the color, honestly, but it is certainly not what I expected.
And then, as I got to drying my hair I started to think about how my hair was a lot like parenting. You go into parenting with "the manual" (your preconceived notions of how it will or should be) and a picture of what this is going to turn out looking like. And then, you realize after several unsuccessful tries to obtain that picture, that this is not turning out right. For some, it means that their children learn, act or behave in a manner that is not like what they expected. Then, you begin to tweak a little here and there; you try things in ways you've never thought of before. As you do, you start to see a subtle turn toward the direction you were planning to go -- toward that picture you have of the "perfect child" (which, by the way, doesn't exist). And then one day you wake up and realize that even though you didn't get "lovely, honey, fawn-colored light brown" that the auburn dark brown is a color that is good that, even though you didn't expect it, you really, really like it -- one might say you love it just the way it is.
I think, in all honesty, the chemicals might have gotten to me and might have fried some of my brain cells. *smile*
Heart contents by Maria at 10:03 PM
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
I looked on the China Adoption forecast website and found the following:
Our prediction for LID 2006-12-25:
China has 286 days of dossiers to be processed before they get to your dossier. China currently processes about 4.2 days of dossiers each month.
Our best guess: 2014-12-22 (EIGHT YEARS from start to finish??)
I KNOW we will not wait that long. However, if we considered the special needs route, it would likely be much sooner.
I think we are both leaning toward no, but the maybe is still sitting there and the yes raised it's head a fews times over the past months. Stay tuned to see where God leads us next.
Heart contents by Maria at 12:19 PM
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Tuesday, May 26, 2009
At home, she's climbing on the pillows, over the back of the couch and trying to climb over it onto the end table. She's learned how to back down off of anything she gets up onto and just shows no fear. She scares the heck out of me. When she's around, you have to be constantly on your game.
To be so little, I don't know how she does it, but I know that the bumper pads are coming out of her crib before she realizes she can climb up on those.
Heart contents by Maria at 9:19 PM
Our first photo as a family of four (even though, technically, we weren't yet -- God knew we were!)
Heart contents by Maria at 1:10 AM
Monday, May 25, 2009
We didn't do anything very special this year. Josh went to a birthday/swimming party today and Ellie and I went to Wallyworld to get Josh's annual slip and slide and Ellie a blow up pool. We have a pool, but it's not ready yet and Ellie is so small I thought she'd enjoy something more her size.
I realized we've been home now for 7 months with Ellie (as of yesterday), and she will be 14 months old this week. Time flies when you are home compared to the wait on the other side of the process.
Some funny new things Ellie is doing: putting her hand up to her ear like a phone and talking to it; pointing to the dogs and going, "GOGGY", babbling ALL the time, wanting to cuddle and lay on top of you or beside you while watching TV, "reading" her books (all the time), doing the hand motions to the "Itsy Bitsy Spider", taking a few steps by herself (I'm certain she could walk, but remind myself that she was two months premature, so her adjusted age is only 11 months -- I expect serious walking soon - oy!!), climbing the steps, climbing up on the couch (climbing on EVERYTHING!!), backing down off steps and the couch, petting the dogs and cats very gently, holding her hands out to everyone so she can move from person to person (the girl has more energy that the energizer bunny I promise!!), and still being such a drama queen.
Here are some pix from today ...
Here she looks demure, sweet and innocent -- don't let the look fool you; there is drama shortly ahead...
See!!! This is not her saying, "Cheese", I assure you. She wanted OUT of her highchair.
The hairbows stayed in longer than I thought -- through the trip to Wallyworld. But, in typical Ellie form, she took one out as soon as I wasn't looking.
Then, we were on to the bathing suit photos. This is my FAVORITE. Marilyn Monroe has nothing on this bathing beauty. Check out the shades and the wave ...
"I was just thinking that a lovely sunbathing hat to match my suit and glasses would be appropriate, Mother" - ha! (check out the hair sticking out!!)
Then it was on to her blow up pool. Now, THAT was exciting! She LOVED putting her hands in and splashing (I'm guessing she thought it was a huge dog water bowl or something).
She stood there for a second ....
Sunday, May 24, 2009
8 Things I'm Looking Forward To:
Grandchildren (ahhh... paybacks!!)
My 50th anniversary (will we live that long???)
Ellie's first trip to Disneyworld -- I still remember Josh's trips, how sweet...
Meeting up with Allison, Rachel, Johnda and any other Kyrgz friends this summer
Tomorrow (and many more of them!!)
Watching my kids grow up (but not too quickly)
8 Things I Did Yesterday:
Entered jobs on the computer (this took the majority of my day)
Played with Ellie
Watched Josh rebuilding his "fort"
Slept late (ahhhh....)
Helped Kevin re-arrange the living room
Started reading a new book (finished it today -- a miracle!!)
Ate too many Krispy Kreme donuts
Updated my blog and accepted new friends on Facebook
8 Things I Wish I Could Do:
Be out of debt and not have to work any more
Go to Europe and spent a month or two traveling around
Make a difference every day
Make my husband and kids feel happy and loved -- every day
Be on the Amazing Race
Have my kitty Punch back
Bring home the 65 kids waiting in Kyrgyzstan
Go on a mission trip
8 Shows I Watch
The Amazing Race
The Young and the Restless
Sesame Street (yeah, I know ...)
Good Times (when I can)
Sanford and Sons (when I can)
And, I'm not sure how many I'm supposed to tag but I'll go with the eight theory and tag:
1. Mayme at McGowan Moments
2. Rachel at Bringing Home Baby Girl
3. Amanda at Casa de Barrios
4. Laura at Ladybugs and Dragonflies
5. Kim at The Stanke's New Journey
6. Jennifer at Our Family
7. Elizabeth at Our Adoption Journey
8. Kimberly at Hoping for Hannah
Be sure to let me know when you do the post so I can read it. Tag eight more friends when you are done. Have fun!!
For those interested, the website for the Tomb can be found here. I love this kid!!
Happy Memorial Day.
Heart contents by Maria at 9:11 PM
Saturday, May 23, 2009
I got this email on Friday. I would like to encourage anyone who will to take the time to make the calls and send the emails to their representatives. The details are below. I know I will be making my calls and sending my emails and continuing my prayers.
CALL TO ACTION: Kyrgyzstan
Dear Friends and Families,
As noted in Joint Council's President & CEO's communication yesterday Joint Council has worked closely with the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI) to secure a 15 minute meeting with Congressional Staffers and the six families traveling to Washington D.C. to represent the group. The meeting will occur just before the Kyrgyz delegation meets with Congressional staffers. In order to ensure that as many Congressional Offices are in attendance at the two meetings Joint Council is initiating a Call to Action requesting the 65 families contact their Senators and Congressmen. Joint Council requests that all families contact their U.S. Senators and Congresspersons on Tuesday, May 26th. The purpose of your call is to request they attend the meetings on Friday, May 29th. Please note that Friday, May 29th is during a Congressional Recess.
On Tuesday, May 26th we request that you do the following:
1) Call both of your U.S. Senators and your representatives in the U.S. House of Representatives:
You can find your Senators' phone numbers and email address at www.senate.gov
You can find your Representatives' phone numbers and email address at www.house.gov
2) Include the following in your calls and emails:
"As constituents, I/we urge the Senator/Congressperson to attend the meeting with Kyrgyz officials hosted by Senator Landrieu and the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute on Friday, May 29th."
If they have not heard about the meeting, ask them to contact the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute at (202) 544-8500 or Joint Council at (703) 535-8045.
3) Send an email to everyone you called:
The email is important, but the phone call should be placed first.
Additionally, feel free to forward this request to your friends and family, asking them to contact their Senators and Congresspersons requesting they attend the meeting.
Government Relations and Communications Manager
Heart contents by Maria at 9:16 PM
Anyway, I digress. I went in and browsed through all the t-shirts and came away with 9 for Josh and 2 for Kevin. I racked up with a Nike tee, two UK tees (one still had the tags on it), a Polo/Ralph Lauren tee, an Abercrombie, an American Eagle, an Eddie Bauer, two Titans and a baseball and skateboarding tee. All of them looked hardly worn. They were originally $2.49 each, but with my Smart Card discount, I got 11 shirts for $20. I couldn't have bought the American Eagle tee for that.
I also found a pair of Liz Claiborne shoes for me, still with the plastic inserts and paper in the toes (aka - NEW) for $5.99. With my discount, I got them for $4.79.
I was pleased with my deals!!
If I'd had more time, I would have browsed more, but, I had to work.
Heart contents by Maria at 8:27 AM
I feel like there ought to be a "last day of school" photo -- much like the first day of school, but there isn't.
To celebrate, we watched a couple of movies and had pizza last night. Ellie made it through 1/2 of the first movie before she passed out so it was sort of like "old times" with just the three of us watching movies.
Congratulations, Josh. You've had an excellent first year of middle school. We have been very proud of your grades and your behavior this year. I wish you'd stop growing up so quickly because I'm realizing how very few years I have left with you. Time, slow down!!
Heart contents by Maria at 8:23 AM
Friday, May 22, 2009
I'm filled with nostalgia as I think back to it all. I have been all week -- more so, I think than even I was over the year anniversary of her referral photo. As one who can't remember anything, I am in awe of the intimate details I remember of the days leading up to us leaving, the actual trip there and my reactions in country when we arrived. They are as fresh as if they happened a month ago and not a year ago. Kevin even commented it didn't seem like a year ago that we left.
And now, we have this sweet little girl who laughs a lot, tries to talk, tries to walk, throws terribly "hissy fits" when she doesn't get what she wants, loves broccoli and ice cream (although not together!!) and her brother, is finally growing some hair and who delights every one of us every day. There is not a day that goes by that she doesn't make one of us burst out laughing with something she does. She is an absolute joy.
Thank you, God, for giving us the child we prayed for -- for allowing us to take that long, long plane ride to the other side of the world, for the country that allowed us to bring her home and be her family, for her birthmom who made the choice to have her, for the test you put us through to get her, for our tested and growing faith because of the decisions we made and the way you brought about a miracle for her and us, for the love we have experienced as a family because of her. Thank you seems so small, but, I know, to you, it is enough.
Heart contents by Maria at 1:00 AM
Thursday, May 21, 2009
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Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
Here he is looking remorseful -- yeah, right!!
Heart contents by Maria at 9:39 PM